Destroying Your Friend's Lovelife

"Fake friends never ask for food, real friends are the reason why you don't have something to eat."

-Anonymous

My niece just had a boyfriend. She's 14 or 15 (I guess) third year high school and the boy's of the same age. This boy is really cute, a headturner. Promise, he really is. Don't get me wrong, he's too young... (LOL!)


Well, my niece is beautiful as well. When we knew they were dating, we were like "Weh?" (with smiles in our eyes) because my niece is still so galgal or immature at her age. We find them cute together. In fact her parents approved of their relationship, not to mention my cousin (her father) is so strict.

From what I heard the boy loves her so much, he's faithful, he's a gentleman (and did I already mention he's cute?) - everything that you could ask for a boyfriend, I suppose. So at least up to this point everything's perfect.

Well, we know for a fact that every fairy tale has an ugly wicked witch. My niece just broke up with her bf, and it's because of her friend (a girl). Seems like her friend doesn't want them to be together for a reason. She kept on telling things to my niece which will make her off with the boy. And she was successful, peer pressure has always been. You know what? The night of their break up the boy waited outside their house for hours just to have a talk with my niece. Too bad she was really decided. The poor cutie literally cried for her.

We value our friends so much, right? Sometimes, even to the extent that we do things against the will of our parents - just to be with them. Some - including me - think that our friends know what's good for us in such a way that we know what's good for them as well, perhaps in the context of being in love. But trying to think again, I would like to believe this idea is absurd. Based on my experience (which I wish not to elaborate), I can tell.

Focusing on my niece's story, a lot of thoughts - on what her friend did - are going on my mind:

1. Crab Mentality

She (the friend) was envious that my niece has a boyfriend when she doesn't have one. Damay-damay na sa kamalasan to! Friends always think of sharing what one has. Too bad, some people think of sharing bad fate to their friends as well. Maybe she was thinking, "I don't have a boyfriend, so you should not have one as well. It's a singles' barkada, weren't you informed?" So instead of looking for a boyfriend, which she believes is harder to do (given her face), she just made ways to draw the lovers apart. That way she has someone to share her fate with.

2. The Boy is Mine 

She's jealous of their relationship. She has feelings for the boy. But with her inferiority, it would be impossible for her to get him especially that he's already tied up with somebody else. What hurts even more - the boy's girlfriend is her bestfriend. Luckily (or maybe, unfortunately), looks like she had a background with business management. She then saw a great opportunity over this huge weakness. "Oh wait, she's my friend, so I can easily make ways to ruin them. She'll listen to me, I bet. Anyway, she will not know that I'm already destroying them for my selfish intentions because I can just make it look like I know what's good for her. If I can't be with him, nobody else should! (insert b*tchy laugh here)"

3. All-Knowing Girl

Well to give the friend a TRUE FRIEND persona, maybe she really knew that the boy's just up to hurt my niece (BULLSH*T). "I know him, he'll just make my bestfriend cry. And as a bestfriend, I'm also her savior so I believe I should make her dump him before he hurts her." Well who knows, I really don't have a direct knowledge over their issue. Plus, I just know one side of the boy that's why I'm giving this paragraph to the friend. And if this is the case, thanks to her. (Prffft!)

4. I Love You Friend

This girl could have been a lesbian. Need I say more?

So do you know how your friends think of you and your partner? Are they happy for you? Are they up to destroy you for a certain reason?

On the other hand, are you happy for your friend being with someone else? Are you up to destroying them for a reason you only knew? Do you really have the right to meddle with somebody else's lovelife even he or she is JUST YOUR FRIEND?

By the way, I don't like to discuss further on the concept of a true/real friend. I strongly believe it would be very difficult to do. Besides, do we really have a measure for being a real friend?